Comments on: The Mysterious World of a Freemason’s wife

By: cs

cs — Thu, 12 May 2011 20:31:25 +0000

Hello,
My husband was just initiated into the Masons and I’m having a VERY HARD time with this. Had I done some research about the Masons, I would NEVER have said I was “okay” with this. The most sacred vow other than with G-d, is between a husband and wife. If Masonry preaches that family comes first, then why is this driving a HUGE wedge in our marriage? We are in our early 40’s, two small children and my husband was just initiated last week. The fact that Masonry will now be a part of his life and I cannot be part or privy to that part of his life drives a huge wedge in our marriage. I would not want to join an organization where I have to keep something from my husband. Like I stated before, Masonry supposedly preaches family first – this cannot happen when there are secrets from the one you supposedly have the MOST sacred vow with – one that supersedes one with the Masons.
Because of the Masons, I will always have a part of me that will feel betrayed.

By: sc

sc — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 19:29:25 +0000

I’m more on the side of resenting the presence of Freemasonry in my marriage. It has come to the point that my husband neglects to tell me when he will take trips that take several days. If I criticize, I am attacked that I “don’t understand it” or “haven’t tried to learn about it”, which is not true. I have gone to events where the wives are welcomed, and even attended events for auxiliary studies such as Rose Circle …I know enough that I do not share the interest, and bc of this, feel further estranged from my husband over the years. I have my role to play in our relationship, but his zealous pursuit of masonry has not helped, and often felt like the presence of a third person in our relationship. I would not stop anyone from pursuing it bc I know many ppl who will speak to the great things Masonry has brought out, but I cannot agree that it strengthens families or marriages…not mine, at least. I envy that Phillipa already had a curiosity about magic or esoterics…bc masonry sounds like it enhanced her relationship with her husband. I do not do not practice religion, nor do I believe in organized spirituality or magic. I can understand ppl being drawn to this, but on the same note, there are people repelled from it also. I am not sure where we will end up, but I don’t want it in my life anymore for the strife, uneasiness and defensiveness it has brought out in my marriage.

I want to read this book, perhaps it will give me tools in dealing with my situation than I have been given. I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE.

By: ollie phelan

ollie phelan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 13:19:18 +0000

contd …..I firmly believe this device designates the “wife ” of a mason .
the best thing of all is that its dated 1622 .
the oldest reference to freemasonry in Ireland is 1598 . Im aware that UGLE deny that freemasonry existed before 1725 . (but that was to ensure its own survival after the defeat of the jacobites )

By: ollie phelan

ollie phelan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 13:16:25 +0000

the son of a mason is called a “LEWIS”
the brother of a mason is called a ” MARTIN”
what is the WIFE of a mason referred to as ?

ive found some masonic graves in a local church yard . theres one of a Mrs Elenor Higgins ..the “m” in mrs has a very curious device carved into it , very similar to the square and compass .

By: Bro. JMC

Bro. JMC — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 04:08:00 +0000

No actual landmarks are revealed here Thomas. The room itself is not a secret, nor is the Craft a “black box”. Apart from a very few and specific items the rest is only as private we wish them to be individually.

By: Bill Bartmann

Bill Bartmann — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 10:07:08 +0000

Excellent site, keep up the good work

By: Alexander Sives

Alexander Sives — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 13:26:47 +0000

Brother Thomas

The photographs accompanying this article was published in the newspaper Norfolk News and on their web site they are therefore on public view.

The pictures themselves do not (in my opinion) reveal any private masonic information and therefore I have not broken my obligation as a Freemason.

By: Clemento

Clemento — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 15:28:04 +0000

Valuable thoughts and advices. I read your topic with great interest.

By: Thomas Nelson

Thomas Nelson — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 23:33:19 +0000

I am at a loss as to the openness of the discussion and the accompanying photographs of teh lodge. What of the penalties of the obligation each Brother is swore to uphold?

By: Amanda Mayberry

Amanda Mayberry — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 10:30:23 +0000

I am a Masonic Wife, my husband vanishes two to three times a week and is very tight lipped about what he has been doing. I will get a copy of this book and find out what he does. Thanks